How to Stop being a Highly Sensitive Introvert
If you are an introvert you would definitely know the power of empathy. In our case, it's not just “the empathy” but superbly over-sensitive empathy!
We take the feelings of others so seriously and deeply that we never understand when that feeling becomes our own. I have faced it ever since I was in my second grade. And believe me, it becomes worse and worse as we carry it in our adulthood.
A personal See-through Experience
A friend of mine once told me about this boy who was her long time crush on the university. One day while crossing the road, he almost came in contact with a car and my friend was watching it from the other side of the road. She shouted so loud that the car stopped, causing the boy some minor injuries. But the thing is people were stunned by her loud cry rather than concentrating upon the boy. It was as if she has got hurt! Now you might call it romantic but it’s actually not. She is traumatizing her own health by getting involved so much. Furthur she could be a victim of a complete breakdown.
Why us?
In many situations, I have noticed that many people would be around “us introverts” because we indeed are good listeners and honest in our opinions. Helping someone is the most beautiful feeling that we exercise as introverts but every time we do it by stepping in their shoes. A lot of times we think and overthink the problems shared by others and make it our own problem.
Meanwhile, I too have my own problems but no one seems to be interested in understanding them. Since we don’t open up to anyone unless we completely trust them to take a deep interest in us. But that doesn’t happen frequently, therefore we are bound to get overburdened. Now, some people turn towards alcohol, smoking, and even depression.
How can we respond to such situations
Therefore it’s time that we should respond to these overbearing empathetic situations with intelligence and awareness. It’s very important for us to take care of our own emotions to analyze the kind of energy that is getting erupted. It happens often that we get too upset by a hard scolding from someone and as a result, we either cry or destroy the ambiance by shouting at our parents or well-wishers. Is it worth it?
It’s important to realize that a child becomes timid if his parents interfere every time in his life making it easier. He would never learn anything by himself when he grows up! Likewise, if we take everything personally then we can’t be of any help. Because ultimately the person has to learn through his/her own experience. We have to be supportive but when it comes to the execution of those work; then the person in grief must solve it for himself.
Being empathetic is the ultimate sign of a good-hearted human being. I am privileged to have it! But at the same time, I would like to work upon myself every day by meditation and connecting myself with spirituality.
